Have you guys ever have a fear of growing up or struggles or growing up? well i am experiencing it right now and i’m gonna share a story about my struggles and reasons why i’m afraid of growing up.
storytime
Soooo ever since i was a kid i used to get very excited for birthdays. coz get a lot of cake and be happy. but when i got older like when i reached 16/17 i am less enthusiast of birthdays. because i have a fear of getting older. like it’s really fast and it teriffied me. i kinda rant and vent to someone about it <33 and they told me its normal to experience it. but i’m really scared of experiencing growing up. 😦
The truth is…. i might get attacked because of sharing this. but i felt like the reason im afraid of growing up because i felt like i haven’t achieved some milestones or do things that i’m supposed to do. i have struggles trying out new things… like lack of motivation and i get lazy all the time.
I want to become a singer and to be honest i hope i can achieve it in the future but what are my interests besides singing?….. i felt like i can’t turn my interests back on. i can’t figure out what i want. and i was constantly asked ” do you know what do u wanna be?. be a doctor,join some webinars,be a lawyer.” i’m like ….. ? its not that easy 😂😂. we have to know what is the pro and cons to be what we want.
okay i don’t know… i need to make a vision board and have some solitude . and to reflect on my goals….. i’m gonna be 18 in 2 days and it’s nervewrecking and i don’t know what to do:(
i will be 20 in 2 years and it’s gonna be horrible and awful:( the fact i didn’t know what im gonna be in my future just frustrated me .
they are all like ” its gonna be okay”. like okay this is scary i’m sorry. but don’t say everythings gonna be ok when its not…, just give some space and try to calm down..
or we can use some words of affirmations to remind ourselves ” u are enough,u are worth it,u are talented and amazing “.
that’s it.
i can’t say much because i feel like a nervous wreck….:(. i am gonna cry i just dislike birthdays:( i just don’t get it 😔😔.
But i’ll see what i can do to be myself and never give up
The best thing one can do when it’s raining is to let it rain.” “Do not, on a rainy day, ask your child what he feels like doing, because I assure you that what he feels like doing, you won’t feel like watching.” “One thing a mother must always save for a rainy day is patience.”
Summary;
rainy days is the best day to spend our time by listening to calm music,drink some warm tea,and do some face masks and read a book and write some journals 🙂 what do u guys do during a rainy day?
things to do during a rainy day
• Meditation
• read a book
• face masks
• listen to a calm music
and do some self care if recommended! like u guys can practice self love or do some baking or cooking or singing or dancing:)
I believe this is an important topic to be spoken of. have you guys ever get angry and don’t know how to deal with anger because you’re too upset and mad to deal with it?. . it’s okay i’ll be here for you guys 💗🤩
How to deal with anger
1) Identify the problem (self-awareness). Start by noticing what you’re angry about and why. Put into words what’s making you upset so you can act rather than react.
Ask yourself: What’s got me angry? What am I feeling and why? You can do this either in your mind or out loud, but it needs to be clear and specific. For example: “I’m really angry at Mom because she won’t let me go to the party until I clean my room. It’s not fair!” Your feeling is anger, and you’re feeling angry because you might not get to go to the party.
Notice that this is not the same as saying, “Mom’s so unfair to me.” That statement doesn’t identify the specific problem (that you can’t go to the party until you clean your room) and it doesn’t say how you’re feeling (angry).
2) Think of potential solutions before responding (self-control). This is where you stop for a minute to give yourself time to manage your anger. It’s also where you start thinking of how you might react — but without reacting yet.
Ask yourself: What can I do? Think of at least three things. For example, in this situation you might think:
(a) I could yell at Mom and throw a fit. (b) I could clean my room and then ask if I could go to the party. (c) I could sneak out to the party anyway.
3) Consider the consequences of each solution (think it through). This is where you think about what is likely to result from each of the different reactions you came up with.
Ask yourself: What will happen for each one of these options? For example:
(a) Yelling at your mom may get you in worse trouble or even grounded. (b) Cleaning your room takes work and you may get to the party late (but maybe that adds to your mystique). With this option, you get to go to the party and your room’s clean so you don’t have to worry about it for a while. (c) Sneaking out may seem like a real option in the heat of anger. But when you really think it through, it’s pretty unlikely you’d get away with being gone for hours with no one noticing. And when you do get caught — look out!
4) Make a decision (pick one of your options).This is where you take action by choosing one of the three things you could do. Look at the list and pick the one that is likely to be most effective.
Ask yourself: What’s my best choice? By the time you’ve thought it through, you’re probably past yelling at your mom, which is a knee-jerk response. You may have also decided that sneaking out is too risky. Neither of these options is likely to get you to the party. So option (b) probably seems like the best choice.
Once you choose your solution, then it’s time to act.
5) Check your progress. After you’ve acted and the situation is over, spend some time thinking about how it went.
Ask yourself: How did I do? Did things work out as I expected? If not, why not? Am I satisfied with the choice I made? Taking some time to reflect on how things worked out after it’s all over is a very important step. It helps you learn about yourself and it allows you to test which problem-solving approaches work best in different situations.
Give yourself a pat on the back if the solution you chose worked out well. If it didn’t, go back through the five steps and see if you can figure out why.
Exercise. Go for a walk/run, work out, or go play a sport. Lots of research has shown that exercise is a great way to improve your mood and decrease negative feelings.
Listen to music (with your headphones on).Music has also been shown to change a person’s mood pretty quickly. And if you dance, then you’re exercising and it’s a two-for-one.
Write down your thoughts and emotions.You can write things in lots of ways; for example, in a journal or as your own poetry or song lyrics. After you’ve written it down, you can keep it or throw it away — it doesn’t matter. The important thing is, writing down your thoughts and feelings can improve how you feel. When you notice, label, and release feelings as they show up in smaller portions, they don’t have a chance to build up inside.
Draw. Scribbling, doodling, or sketching your thoughts or feelings might help too.
Meditate or practice deep breathing. This one works best if you do it regularly, as it’s more of an overall stress management technique that can help you use self-control when you’re mad. If you do this regularly, you’ll find that anger is less likely to build up.
Talk about your feelings with someone you trust. Lots of times there are other emotions, such as fear or sadness, beneath anger. Talking about them can help.
Distract yourself. If you find yourself stewing about something and just can’t seem to let go, it can help to do something that will get your mind past what’s bugging you — watch TV, read, or go to the movies.
Storytime;
So i was angry at myself and took out my anger because i was offered to join a dance class for the purpose to make my body flexible i was okay at first but i started thinking about how it need to pay for the class and i felt bad about it because i cannot do dancing. 😦 it makes me feel bad and sad at the same time. and im a sensitive person so i cried…… and i may have took out ab my anger if ; does she thinks looking for money is easy(just because i’m confused about it). it makes me feel sad and mad at the same time. i didn’t mean to hurt people.
Thank you so much guys for reading my blog:) i’m not in a mood to write but i’m trying my best 😁
have you guys ever deal with haters? like bringing u down,bullying y’all. and lastly calling you mean names.. check out my blog and i’ll write about how to deal with haters.
What is a “Hater?”
“Hater” is a label used to refer to people who use negative and critical comments and behavior to bring another person down by making them look or feel bad. These hurtful and negative comments can be delivered in person, online, or in texts and apps. Often, the comments and behavior are repeated over time. Haters are often anonymous (especially online) but they can also be acquaintances, peers, or people who were once considered friends. Hateful, critical behavior is another form of bullying or cyberbullying. Like bullying, hater behavior is something that a person does – it is not who they are, and it can be changed.
How to deal with haters?.
Ignore it. Walk away. Don’t react or respond to negative comments. If it continues, there are other things you can do. If someone threatens you, report it to a parent, teacher, or other trusted adult!
Block online haters. If someone is making negative or hateful comments on your posts or account, or is cyberbullying, block them. If they’re threatening you, tell your parents, report it to the platform, and take screenshots.
Be kind and respectful, even to haters. It shows that you’re in control of your emotions and that you aren’t letting negativity bring you down.
Stick with supporters. Having a friend nearby if you think you might encounter a hater not only makes it less likely that an incident might happen, but also means you’ll have positive reinforcements just in case.
Remind yourself that comments from a hater are a reflection of them and aren’t really about you. People who feel good about themselves don’t need to put others down.
Understand criticism can be a sign of pain. People sometimes lash out because they have other life struggles. Negative comments may have nothing to do with you.
Acknowledge your feelings. Talk to a trusted adult or friend and get some encouragement and support.
Keep being you. Keep moving forward, pursuing your interests, and being who you are.
Storytime
I have dealt with haters all the time. like yesterday my screenshot in instagram was posted about my opinion about cancel culture ab not toxic. and of course it got posted and 100+ people liked it and saw it. the comments were like 8 comments and of course i was scared and anxious. coz the internet can be very mean. and of course…. one of them say ” im too lazy to read that,not gonna read that” i misunderstood them for being mean for a second and this user said ” not u replying to comments,……”. i stand up what i believe in and of course i block them. because im uncomfortable. but i’m okay right now.
Update;
i’m gonna do some song recording,watch youtube and netflix and continue reading my book. and if i can i could have some solitude time and be myself. i’m on a detox diet for three days. it’s my last detox diet. so im trying my best i can.
have you guys ever experienced bodyshaming??? coz of course it’s a very horrible thing and an awful experience:( i’m gonna write about a topic about bodyshaming…
Intro
Body shaming is the act of deriding or mocking a person’s physical appearance. The scope of body shaming is wide, and can include, although is not limited to fat-shaming, shaming for thinness, height-shaming, shaming of hairiness (or lack thereof), of hair-color, body-shape, one’s muscularity (or lack thereof), shaming of looks (facial features), and in its broadest sense may even include shaming of tattoos and piercings or diseases that leave a physical mark such as psoriasis.[1]
hey everyone!!! so today’s blog i’m gonna write about racism. i believe racism is a very important topic that needs to be speak on.
since everyone dealt with racism and it’s horrible to look through that:(
what is racism?
is the belief that groups of humans possess different behavioral traits corresponding to physical appearance and can be divided based on the superiority of one race over another.[1][2][3][4] It may also mean prejudice, discrimination, or antagonism directed against other people because they are of a different ethnicity.[2][3] Modern variants of racism are often based in social perceptions of biological differences between peoples. These views can take the form of social actions, practices or beliefs, or political systems in which different races are ranked as inherently superior or inferior to each other, based on presumed shared inheritable traits, abilities, or qualities.[2][3][5]
This is racism that exists within individuals. It is when one holds negative ideas about his/her own culture, even if unknowingly. Xenophobic feelings or one’s internalized sense of oppression/privilege are two examples of individual or internalized racism.
my pov
soooo i’m gonna give my pov about racism,i believe everyone of us are unique and we all are amazing. i just dont see why people need to be racist.
also i see how people become superior or racist just bcs the other people are different but no,we all are the unique .
Sometimes people make a racist remark because they don’t think or just thoughtlessly copy what they heard before. Being kind to them might just wake them up.
most importantly we have to educate ourselves or research for the sources of it and try to spread awareness(not bcs we got forced by people to spread awareness,but we do it from ourselves). if you see someone racist,just dont react and ignore them and be kind to them:) or you can call them out for being racist and educate them:)
i used to have a piano tuition when i was in 1st grade it’s tiring but i regretted it because i didn’t continue because she is very wild ugh. i used to get hit by a ruler. and it’s scary;/
I Love Travelling,i love being on a plane and eat and read and watch movies and tv shows in a plane .
Countries I’ve been to
Singapore
Malaysia
China
Taiwan
Hongkong
Macau
Japan
Korea
France(Paris)
Portugal
Denmark
Netherlands(Amsterdam)
Penang(Malaysia)
Climax
What’s my favourite place to travel? from the pictures? and why? I Love going to France and Portugal and Denmark because the atmosphere is really beautiful and i love the scenery and the people there are very nice and the food and the places are so good 🙂
Ending
Hope you guys enjoy my blog <33 Thank you guys for reading my blog:)
What’s the one thing you guys want to achieve but can’t because people around you are being judgy or pushy to you… and what’s the worse thing that you guys ever experience and how do you guys deal with it?. I’m gonna share about my story
haters gotta hate;
denise .
Introduction
hey everyone!! denise here:) i believe i write about myself yesterday,but i’m gonna share about myself more 🙂
So i’m currently a high school graduate,still figuring out what my major is; both college and university
University/College
and what confuse me is that even if you got yourself figure out but part of you wish ; is that what u really want?. i want to be an all time singer and make some music even if i can’t play musical instrument and i want to be both Singer and Blogger 🙂
Singer🥳Blogger
I just found out i have an interest in blogging(just for fun) and i wanna explore what i love 🙂 i want to do things that make me truly happy and not truly forced .
Sooo back to my story.
Vent/Rant
Sooo i’m gonna talk about a subject titled Bullying and what is bullying?
Bullying is the use of force, coercion, hurtful teasing or threat, to abuse, aggressively dominateor intimidate. The behavior is often repeated and habitual. One essential prerequisite is the perception (by the bully or by others) of an imbalance of physical or social power. This imbalance distinguishes bullying from conflict.[1]Bullying is a subcategory of aggressive behavior characterized by the following three criteria: (1) hostile intent, (2) imbalance of power, and (3) repetition over a period of time.[2] Bullying is the activity of repeated, aggressive behavior intended to hurt another individual, physically, mentally, or emotionally.
This is the example this kid is being bullied and it’s really horrible what he is going through:(
So i was a subject to bullying back in i was in 7th Grade and 9th Grade and 10th Grade. I was a new kid in my school. and just two weeks in my school . so my ” new ” friends who are with me (a few of them) are going to the restroom.
And this kid who i’ve known since 5th Grade just turn my friends against me. telling i’m an autism and that i am a tattletale and other stuff.
I remembered i was in a chinese class when he did that. it breaks my feelings:( like at first it is normal) but my classmates starting to know and even the kids in my whole grade know about it.
and one of this girl from this Class Grade 7B asked me if i am a tattletale or something. and this guy who used to bullied me Is always grossed out by me and he hates me i guess.?.
I remembered i just got back from Physical Education Class in the field and when i returned to my class and kids started screaming at me and this girl who i thought was my friend called me names.?
I was like “…..” just because she was annoyed at me staring at her 24/7?. and this guy named A started bringing up parents . like why dont u report or tell to ur or dad about it. ooooo she will report again. . i was bullied by him along with his friend who also bully me i guess
And in the Eighth Grade i wasn’t in the same class as him. So i’m off the hook by now
But in ninth Grade i was put in the same class as him. long story short i cried the night before and called my class teacher ab it and the next day my principal and guidance counselor had to talk to me and even had to switch him to class A while i stayed in Class B.
And this kid . Let’s just say he knew about it. and he told A (the guy who bullied me) since they were in the same class. and of course he hated me and shaded me of it.
So in the second semester of ninth Grade three classes were combined into two classes because we’re gonna have a government exam. where we r gonna graduate from Junior High. and the bullying/teasing and shading got worse.
This kid let’s just call him B. spread rumors about me (long story short,we were put in the same group of a economics presentation). I was in korea so i don’t know.:: i was always picked last everytime there’s group projects or anything. and he just spread rumors out of nowhere about how apparently m m just scolded him for not inviting me to do a group project which was a lie coz apparently they just don’t know him that’s all .
And the guys from my class called me Boss. it’s kinda offending.
And In the 10th Grade i was in the same class as A and B and bullying rise in the second semester . So it was in IT class and we were made to made our file names.
And someone changed my file name. (*insert my name*) Statue . it’s just horrible. and i already tried being patient that he kept calling me mannequin challenge and statue. .
And yeah i wasn’t feeling okay and suddenly i cried:( . i felt awful about myself and i asked a friend if i can go to the sick bay in my school. and i realized i wanted to go to the guidance counselor
And my guidance counselor who is my class teacher just brought me to the Principal’s office along with three guys (A,B,C). and they just lied infront of my principal and my class teacher about it.
And i spent an hour in the principal’s office and of course i went home early and cry even if i was in my singing tuition. i can’t focus like…. it’s the most horrible thing happened to me.
Point of View
I always get triggered everytime i see bullying occurred. i am a very sensitive person,….. it reminded of me.
I became a quiet and shy and have low self esteem and low self confidence always have negative thoughts abut me and others. always get scared and always have a fear of it.
It’s really difficult to get over it even if We are asked to.
But my advice is ; don’t listen to people who bring us down,it’s not worth it….
Daily Aspirations 